im 20 and i've fallen in love with a thai girl whilst visiting family in thailand. she's not like the girls you read about, she doesn't want my money or for me to give her family money. She's really genuine she works in a bar but told me she doesn't like it and pattaya isn't for her and she wants to study instead. but her parents dont want her to. i got back from thailand only a few hours ago and i've already had an email from her and a phone call to make sure i got back okay and to say she misses me. I need to know how i can go about living in thailand so i can be with her. my mother already lives there with her husband but says its not possible for me to live there unless i pay the thai government a lot of money for a visa. any info on this would be greatly appreciated i forgot to mention the amount for this visa is around 2million baht which with the currency as it is now is about £37000 and i dont have that sort of money. to everyone saying about her wanting my money... for the whole month i was there she didnt want it and she knows i dont really have any. she paid for me to go out drinking with her and her friends. not the otherway around. i didnt pay any bar fines cause she made me wait for it to close before we left and she didnt ask for money and dissapear till the following night she stayed with me till 20 minutes before she had to work again everytime. she didnt want to go out to resterantes or anything like that, just being with me seemed to be enough, and the night before i left she cried giving me a hug in bed and said she doesnt want me to leave i treat her like a princess. and dont forget her when i go home. and then the next day she burst into tears as i dropped her off on my way to the airport. if all that is fake then she should go into acting cause it seemed pretty real to me. if it makes me a fool for falling for her then im a fool but i dont care. and i finished college 4 years ago oh and she works in a bar cause she moved to pattaya to see her sister but couldnt find her for weeks so took the job there to have somewhere to stay. now she's stuck in the contract with them.
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3 Steps: 1. Get a job 2. Get a Visa. 3. Go to Thailand.
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I thought they change the story in Pattaya already. This one I've heard about 25 years ago. I worked sometimes ago and had to deal with lots of westerners who married to Thai girls; well surprisingly most of thm weren't from bars. However, majorty told me they had BA arts department from Chulalongkorn University; well the oldest and probably the best of it. One guy lost his wife to a drum player in a band, along with his little daughter (may be eight). Went and tried to win back his wife only to find the drummer's father holding a shot gun and he had to leave. Spent nearly all his fortune on detective and lawyer, finally he got his daughter back snatching her from the mother's arm at Bangkok's Don Muang airport. Now, he has his daughter with him, still sending me the picture. He said: "You can take a girl out of Patpong, Never can take Patpong out of a girl!"
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in possible if you wear over 50 you my stand a Chance get over it.BILL
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How many times have I heard some guy say she not like other girls, she different. She works in a bar but she is not like other girls. She loves me and email me and calls me. Do yourself a favor and wait a few weeks and see if she ask for money. Her mother is sick, the cow is sick, her apartment got robbed and stole all her money, college tuition is due. She is like those other girls you read about and who do you think she is emailing tonight that she miss and love who just went back home.
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I researched for a US citizen to stay in Thailand a while back. You may have other options. I realize you are in love. That is great. Okay she is working as a bar girl. I will make no judgment on that. Why she is working there? Well you did not mention that. My guess, her parents need or want her to work there for the extra money. She has an obligation to her parents that will affect her karma. You have to realize she is a second class citizen contrary to how you may have brought up to understand. And she is subject to the ways of her parents wants and what she wants is secondary or tertiary. So really if you want to be with her, you have a two fold problem. One is your visa, I believe you are right, about the 1 million baht fee. Plus another 800,000 to 1 Million baht in the bank. You could try to stay on a student visa and go to school there. That would not require those kind of fees and deposits. http://www.siam-legal.com/UK-Citizens/thailand-education-visa-uk.php When you are there what do you want? Her to not work at the bar? If so, you may have to compensate her parents for the lost cash flow. I am not really giving you an answer because you have questions to answer for yourself and discuss with her about her life and her commitments to her family and what you both are going to do. Siam-Legal is just happens to be a UK legal site, I am an American, I don't know exactly if this company is any good. You can search further for more or different help Good luck
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Ok, I know exactly where your coming from because I met a lovely Thai girl when I visited family in Koh Samui in February! Of course this lovely pretty girl you've met doesn't want to work in a bar, but most of these 'bar girls' come from poor families in rural villages who are desperate and are in need of money. She has left her family in her poor rural village and has headed for a main city (such as Pattaya) in the hope to make good money for her family and meet a nice wealthy western guy - even better if he has all these things and he's young! If you do actually want to date or even marry her YOU WILL be expected to take care of her and give her money each month so she can survive and support her parents. Thai's express their love with money and like to share their money with their family. I'm not saying you havn't met a genuine girl, but you need to be aware that many of these pretty Thai gilrs have a number of western boyfriends who all send them 4 or 5000 Baht a month and they are able to live a very good lifesyle with this (the average wage in Thailand is between 4 and 6000 Baht a month) Regarding living in Thailand DON'T unless you've got a job and a bit of money behind you. You will only be granted a working visa for Thailand if you are a skilled individual. For now, take a deep breath and if you still think she's 100% genuine pay her a few more visits then get a visa for her to bring her back to your home country. REMEMBER THE FAMOUS SAYING IN THAILAND GOES: NO MONEY NO HONEY! TAKE CARE AND ALL THE BEST! I'm seeing my Thai girl in 2 months! : p
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you know she could've made all of those things up. well, most likely. and you'll regret that decision. and come on, you are only 20 and your amygdala hasn't fully matured yet. if you truely love her, then you can wait until you get out of college.
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Whenever I read a question "Is Thailand dangerous" ? I usually answer that the biggest danger is falling in love with a Thai bar girl. You poor boy. I saw an ad in a Pattaya Baht bus for a long time stay you can become a student and have a student visa but then you would still need money to support yourself and her and her family.
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Of course she is not like all the other girls you read about. None of them are. If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, it probably is a duck. You're twenty. Get over it. You will fall in love again. If this really is the partner you want to share you life with: 1- Finish your education first. Get a teaching degree. Most likely the only job you will find is teacher. 2- Win the lottery. At 20 you haven't got neither any experience nor any financial reserve worth mentioning. Best thing is to rob a few banks, sell drugs or win the lottery. I suggest winning the lottery. I'm sorry for my harsh words. You are not the first, not the only one and certainly not the last to find the girl of your dreams here. Just be happy with your experience, and either enjoy the memory of it. Or seriously work on getting your dream come true. It isn't easy to find a job here. Millions are unemployed. Farangs always demand a higher salary than locals. Why would a Thai company or school want to hire an expensive farang if they can hire a suitable Thai willing to work for far less? They ONLY do that if you make it worthwhile: having unique knowledge, or lots of experience in something. At 20 the only unique knowledge you can offer is being a native English speaker. Not much of an advantage, if you don't like teaching, that is.
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aren't you too young to do such a thing ?and do you have a job or a good income ? first of all i would say that Thai girls are really kind and because of this so many foreigner fall in love with them,they show that your money isn't important and don't want your money but as so many others that said this , many of them are come from poor families so after a while they kinda need your money for Supporting their family,if you really in love with this girl u should wait and find out some more Information about her and her family,and one way you can go and be with her is MARRIAGE and i think she really want this so if u ever decide to get married so make everything clear that u are not gonna support her family cause the majority of them need someone who support them and family.
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Dan, So you want to move away and live in wacky-fun-world. Great! First of all, how much money do you have now or can you save before you plan to move? Do you have a college degree?
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Tell her you have 2 million baht to get the visa but then you will not have money for her to live and her famiily - but you can be with her - Or, you can just send the money to her, but she will not be able to see you again but she can quit work and lve nicely at home in her village - - Let her decide - everyone above will guess that she will take the $$ instead of the love - they are proficient at both emailing you and tugging at your heartstrings - they are real proffesionals at what they do
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